“Thanksgiving” equals “Thanksbeing”

Yes, it is this time of the year again; the temperatures and the leaves have started falling. Yes, and the holiday season is fast approaching with its feared celebratory indulgences beyond a level advised by health professionals. And yes, we are looking very much forward to arm ourselves against the company of people, we would rather avoid at family gatherings.

As we start prepaing for 2017 Thanksgiving Day, we have to remind ourselves of the actual “why?” for celebrating this annual holiday to avoid missteps and excessive indulgence in food, drinks and regrettable behavior. The way to do so is by being thankful commemorating what we have been given over the year and by seeing the glass as half-full instead of half-empty. Only children have the privilege to focus on the giving part of Thanksgiving, and being on the receiving end is their right on this day. To stay true to the annually-revived resolution of doing better this year and survive the holidays without regrets about unhealthy behaviors including the indulgence in arguing with uncle Ed about the election at a holiday gathering. Can we prove to ourselves that we are worth the company and express thankfulness to the people around us?

If you haven’t noticed it, the Thanksgiving spirit is actually all about “being” and not about alcoholic spirits first and foremost? I recommend focusing on being thankful to families, friends, and neighbors, who are being here with us that day, for being present and investing their time for being together. With a focus on “ThanksBeing” we can truly celebrate life, living and the time we share being ourselves together with others in the truest meaning of Thanksgiving. By indulging in the “togetherness” of Being, we can – this time around – fully enjoy the food, the presents, the communication and other givings of this special day, in the most healthy way. You won’t regret it.

Wishing you and your families the “Thanksbeing” spirit for a Happy, memorable and Healthy 2017 Thanksgiving season!

Think BIGGER – Do it NOW!



For the New Year many of us have set goals for making improvements in our lives and doing things better – to better ourselves.

Now that the New Year has arrived reality sets in and our efforts to reinvent ourselves are being put to the test. Soon it becomes challenging to pursue our New Year’s resolution and lack of progress towards becoming a better self as planned is frustrating; we may eventually stop and give up. In a similar manner, we try to put our best self forward while seeking new opportunities, such as in an interview for a new position.

Whether it is following-up on a New Year’s resolution or seizing a new possibility during the year, these are typically modeled after a prior successful performance or a pre-conceived idea of what our best may be. This, however, is limiting you from realizing your true best self and who you can really be. Instead, if you consider prior success or a New Year’s resolution goal only as the next step towards becoming your best self, you can progress beyond this restricted view of who you are and who you can be. Then you can morph your perceived best self into an increasingly Bigger Self, who has the capacity to keep growing and become better and better. True growth is never linear; there are always ups and downs, forward and back motions as life progresses. Just keep going on your way to becoming your best self despite missteps; you may have to periodically re-adjust the direction. The next even Bigger Self, which you can currently not imagine, will reveal itself.

Making progress towards reaching your goals does not need a New Year to come for taking action. Making this decision is Mental Self-Defense and it lets you overcome your limited idea of who you can truly be. To become your ever growing BIGGER Self – think BIGGER and do it NOW!

Harmony Meditation / G.Master Johwa Choi

Gain relief from impossible emotional pursuit


Here, we will talk about health and emotions, particularly in terms of emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence refers to the knowledge of the impartiality and inconsistency of emotions.

When we can realize this we can begin to understand that our emotions do not identify our true selves, rather they affect our momentary experiences. In realizing this we can switch from “I am sad” to “sadness is visiting me awhile, and then it will go”, which can provide great freedom.

We stop clinging to the impossible goal of constant happiness and feel acceptance that positive and negative emotions will come and go, and that they do not define our true selves. When we let go of this illusion, we can stop comparing our feelings to our perception of other people’s feelings. We can then know that emotions are not within our control, and thus it is impossible to pursue and keep a certain emotion.

However, we are not taught this as children. We are encouraged to “be positive” and “be happy”, even though this is not within our control. We may have looked at ourselves and thought “why can’t I just be happy? Why am I feeling this way? What is wrong with me?”

Now we come to realize that our emotions are not ours and are not ours to control, we can free ourselves from that harsh thinking. We can know that “try and be happy all the time” is an impossible task, and we can free ourselves from trying to chase and harness certain emotions. It is a serious problem that we were never taught about emotions in this manner because it sets us up for an impossible pursuit: to gain positive emotions and keep them. Now with this new knowl- edge that we cannot have one emotion all the time, we can be relieved from this impossible pursuit.


– Johwa Choi

Family-enhancing Meditation


The upcoming holidays will be filled with festivities, presents and fun. Children can’t wait for this time to arrive as their parents make special efforts in sharing time and giving attention to them. When the holidays end and parents go back to their daily routine, this may be difficult for children to accept. They cannot understand why there should be a change now, which can cause conflicts and put stress on family relationships.

The special feeling of the holidays does not need to fade, however, if we continue to focus on their essence. Simply being, just being there and being there for your kids and loved ones completely, even if you can only share a moment. While being there for your children and listening is important, words are not always required for sharing quality time.

I want to give the example of a businessman, who was taking meditation sessions with me to better manage his stressful life and was also seeking my advice for improving the relationship with his son.

The upcoming holidays will be filled with festivities, presents and fun. Children can’t wait for this time to arrive as their parents make special efforts in sharing time and giving attention to them. When the holidays end and parents go back to their daily routine, this may be difficult for children to accept. They cannot understand why there should be a change now, which can cause conflicts and put stress on family relationships.

Often, when he started asking his son about school or trying to give him advise things would turn sour again. He would try to encourage his son, and sometimes comfort him by saying, “It’s going to be okay.” This type of conversation would not work well. I advised him just to be there instead of trying to be a good father or friends with his son. He admitted that the only time they were both comfortable together was when they walked to the local store. During this time they did not talk, they were simply together, bought a few items and then went back home. Even when it took longer, there was no conflict and they were comfortable being with each other. As the man was reflecting on this with me, he confirmed that talking was making matters worse. He now limited his conversation and the rest of the time, he decided to just be there as whom he is, fully.

Being there for yourself and others is meditation. If you pay attention, you will notice that many conversations are just empty chatter with no particular point. Through realizing that you are there for them your children will feel understood and also share meaningful verbal conversations coming from their hearts and minds. Being truly present will deepen your relationship and pre- serve the special feeling of togetherness of the holiday season long beyond.

By Johwa Choi,  Dec. 2016

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In versus Out: How everyday activities can remind us who we are and who we’re not


One day while grocery shopping, I faced a lovely baby ahead of me and I naturally smiled at him. I was watching my smile and my mind. I suddenly felt glorious joy from deep inside myself like a subtle fragrance of a flower that would rise and directly after, the smile transferred from me to others around me.

On the other hand, one fine day that I could hardly acknowledge the blue sky directly through my own eyes and the flowers were blooming beautifully around me, seemingly unnoticed by me, my mind was so moody.

What caused the difference? Why did I feel that way?


I guess because of my mind’s direction or flow.

I wonder if the bright mind, which was naturally blooming from inside me was naturally flowing out on my shopping day, but on the other day that wasn’t the case. The brightness from the outside took time to reach me. So, it felt like more darkness and emotional dynamics existed.


Your point of view from where you start to see from, in or out, is important.

Usually in the morning, I suspect when people wake up, they first pick up their cell phone. We can easily access information from the internet. We are not really feeling much regret over a lost opportunity to attend the special speaker’s lecture in person versus via online access, because we believe that sooner or later, we optimize opportunities available that way. So, we mistakenly behave inattentively to the person who’s speaking directly next to us, or sometimes to ourselves. We give more attention to the cyber-world than the visible real world.

Creativity doesn’t come from text materials, it flows out from the actual reading, feeling and doing.

How about creating your mind?

Do you want to pick up a book from the dusty shelf now?

Oh, NO.

Stay and feel this moment.

Savor “Who am I?” and its power.